Letting Go

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The definition of “letting go” is to relinquish, to unhand, or to allow freedom.  (Perceived control, maybe?)

Let go of what you might ask?  When is it time? These may be some of the questions that go through your mind. 

The words, “letting go” can strike fear in the heart of many!  What are feelings associated with letting go?  Well that depends on our thoughts.  Feelings of sadness, happiness, and fear, are some of the many that can emerge.  There is strength, as well as a lesson(s) in letting go.

Examples such as:

*When a child first learns to walk, when they go to school, begin to drive, or leave for college. 

*Staying in a relationship too long.  Did you lose yourself or never know yourself as an

  individual before that relationship?

*What about when someone in a relationship outgrows the other?

*What if that relationship is draining everything in you, making you physically sick?

*Or in the stages of grief, when we lose someone or our animal in death?

We learn to “hang on” usually in our family of origin, since that is where we spend most of our early years before moving away from that primary caregiver.  Did someone have trouble letting go of you during those formidable years?

I have seen many clients over the years that have had trouble “letting go,” developing codependency issues that are deeply ingrained.  (Melody Beattie’s definition is:  a codependent person is one who has let another person’s behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person’s behavior.)    

As you move forward, try to shift the focus back to yourself and “trust the process.”  When you do, you will begin to see others change their behavior around you. In fact, the more you “let go,” the closer someone will stay or feel free to come back!

Nothing sums up “let em’ go” or letting go in a more humorous way than Madea.  Copy/paste: vimeo.com/86149821   Let me know what you think!