THOUGHTS AROUND SELF-ESTEEM FOR THE NEW YEAR
The definition of Self-esteem is: “a confidence and satisfaction in oneself.”
Where do we learn about ourselves and how do healthy or unhealthy thoughts about ourselves begin? Anyone who knows me knows I will say, “From our family of origin!”
A few examples of low self-esteem:
Comparing self to others
Fear of failing
Sometimes also, an increased fear of being alone
A few examples of high self-esteem:
Decreased anxiety when leaving “comfort” box
Self-care – knowing that it is okay to say, “No,” which is by the way, “the ultimate self-care!”
Accept the positives and challenges of ones’ self, accepting that we are a “Work in progress!”
Understanding that by changing your thoughts, you will change your mood, behavior and how you physically feel.
If your primary care-givers, one or both, did not exhibit high self-esteem, all is not lost! You can learn to increase your self-esteem with the above examples as a start, along with therapy.
When your self-esteem is high, vulnerability is usually low. You value your own beliefs and are not vulnerable to needing or seeking others’ guidance above your own.
When vulnerability is high, self-esteem is usually low. You can be vulnerable and look too much to others for guidance. What is it they say about too many opinions!
Again, when self-esteem is high, we want to conquer the world, when low, we want to hide.
Let’s re-record the “tapes” we play in our head from our family of origin. Focus inward in 2018!
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!